You can’t teach anyone a lesson
[2+ years ago I started drafting this blog]
You can’t teach anyone a lesson. Quite literally isn’t it? This phrase came to me one morning, as I was ruminating on some recent behavioral traits, responses during day to day events. The best way to move from moment to moment is not to carry anything to the next moment, not even ‘you’, let alone learn anything yourself from it, and never ‘teach others’ a lesson.
Think about it.
When we interact in the material world, in our action-reaction, emotional world, we are already entangled in it, even when we think we learn to respond better the next time.
Our inner emotional reaction, is conditioned by our past, our external reaction or non-reaction is a learned trait.
As many who watched The Lion King, will fondly remember this dialogue:
“The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it.” as the Rafiki says to Simba in the movie ‘The Lion King’
#Emotional Intelligence is all about using the ability to learn and adapt emotional reactions in different situations. Those who adopt such practices, and other #mindfulness and #heartfulness techniques to suggest to oneself a refined response or utilizing them in a positive way in avoiding emotional entanglements have definitely gained from such practices. I too have been gaining immensely from #heartfulness practice over many years in gaining gradual regulation over our thoughts and emotions.
But the thought flow I got that morning was after an intense work schedule in the previous week, extending late into Friday night carrying professional work, and balancing personal and family situation delicately but tiringly. It was something more than the usual emotional intelligence, or a mindfulness practice.
[Present day]
I wanted to immediately collect my thought and write a blog on it, but it has been more than two years, since I drafted the above paragraph, and wanting to complete it one day remembering the thought flow, the person or event that triggered in me an emotion that for a second thought ‘Should I teach him a lesson?’, but the next second how I visually perceived with a series of ‘inner awareness’ to help in moving from one moment to next, without carrying the weight of the moment.
As I was sitting today with a sense of boredom, or deep within, a sense of restlessness, of seeing a world and its activities without any meaning and purpose, I chanced again to browse through my old blogs and bingo I just completed this draft, deciding to end it short.
But as I conclude, I can’t but remember Babuji (Shri Ram Chandra of Shahjahanpur, founder president of Shri Ram Chandra Mission), and one of the earliest guide of the #Heartfulness way.
His article titled ‘Travel Light’ was perhaps this inner vision that I somewhat had when I got this perception to move from one moment to another without even carrying ‘myself’ into it. Kamlesh D. Patel explored this topic wonderfully in a talk he gave some years back, published here.
May be this churning inside me for past few days, and this writing all is to coincide on the 125th birth anniversary celebration of Babuji being hosted by The Heartfulness Institute starting tomorrow, 29th April 2024!
Happy reading, introspecting, ruminating, meditating, and moving forward leaving this moment behind whole heartedly!
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